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I'm trying to stop using Tina. I still like to have sex at the baths, but one of the hottest guys I've been with - an auto worker from Detroit - is also someone who's always shared Tina with me while we played. I don't know how I'm going to react next time I see him. Any suggestions?

- Mark V.

Response from: NELSON

Good for you for anticipating what are going to be the tough times for you.  It’s always better to be prepared. This is a common situation guys can find themselves in when they have a strong association between sex and Tina.  It’s always best to be upfront - first with yourself, i.e. can you handle saying no to Tina at the baths where you have used before and with someone you find really hot.  Then upfront with guys you connect with.   Let him know you are not partying right now. Lots of guys are okay with this, and you can still have a great time (some are even trying to cut down themselves.)  If you tell them you want to have sex without drugs, and they say no, then you have your answer.  If that’s the case, you just have to move on.    

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