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Tina gets me hard

Since beginning work on getting Tina out of my life, I have found that sometimes just thinking of the drug is a huge turn on. A guy online just sent me a hot email with the suggestion to hook up and PnP and I was instantly hard, body and mind. Can someone explain what this?
-Stuart

Response from: NELSON

Stuart, you're not the only one who feels this way. It is normal to be turned on by recalling past experiences that may have involved hot sex! Lots of guys notice that once they start to link sex and crystal use in their minds, they find it hard to then disconnect these two experiences. If you were someone who didn't feel comfortable being sexual, and Tina helped lower your inhibitions, you may want to go back and figure out what things were making you uncomfortable in the first place. Being gay and sexual can be a complicated thing. We don't get positive messages about gay sex growing up and this can impact how we feel about being sexual as adults.

If you have had a positive association between the kind of sex you had and using crystal, and you want to as you say, ‘get Tina out of your life,’ it make take some effort to be sexual without Tina. Some guys, who have had good sex prior to using, find it helpful to recall their sexual experiences before they were using, in order to remind themselves of what else is possible for them sexually. Other guys decide that they need to find different ways of being sexual and not take the risk of going to PnP scenes where they'll be tempted to use.

Regardless, remind yourself that it is normal to be turned on by invitations to be sexual and you are just responding to the positive associations you may have had to your use of Tina. Hopefully, understanding helps.

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